NOT THE SHARPEST KNIFE IN THE DRAWER

Hello:

On more than one occasion I have mentioned that when it comes to this internet technology, I am not the sharpest knife in the drawer. This next story proves that comment in spades. 

When I first started writing a blog and joined google+ I would check my email to see if anyone was responding to my posts.   I never saw any such responses.

Recently I decided to click unto the icons for social media at the top of my email inbox page. There I became aware that many people had responded to my Posts or comments without me realizing it. Please accept my apology for failing to understand that I should have accessed the social media icons long ago.

If any of you are willing to do so, I would be more than pleased to answer any of your questions or comments about previous Posts that I have entered

MIGRAINE HEADACHES

Hello:

About 2 weeks before Gerneral Lee surrendered to bring the American Civil War to an end, General Grant was suffering from one of his many bouts with migraine headaches.  

As is stated in John Kordic's book called, --- Clouds of Glory; this phenomena happened often when General Grant was experiencing unrelenting stress.   The two Generals held in their hands the fate of thousands of soldiers and this fact weighted heavily on Grant's mind.

The fact that nothing is written about migraines bothering General Lee points out the differences in effect of the same kind of stress on two different people whose response is obviously different also.

The type of help provided for this problem at that time was placing one's feet in hot water, applying a mustard poultice to one's wrists and/or the back of one's neck.

On approximately April 9th, 1865 when Grant received Lee's letter acquiescing to the terms of surrender; Grant wrote that his migraine headache was instantly cured.   One more example of how a "thinking" or purely mental problem could make itself evident through physical means.   

Of course those who favor genetic factors to understand this problem will put forward the truth that the two men reacted differently to this problem.  In my mind, Grant showed the stress in his migrarine headaches and Lee showed the stress in the using up of or the weakening of his heart. 

Genetic or behavioral, --- nature or nurture, that makes this subject difficult and it becomes prudent to always rule out physical causes for migraines, before looking for psychological ones.    

WE ARE ALL AMATEUR PSYCHOLOGISTS

Hello to one and all:

 

I am 77 years old.  I have been studying psychology all of my life, so have you.  In fact all of us are amateur psychologists trying to understand why people behave the way they do.   Some of us are more amateur than others.

I believe that I have important ideas to share with you if you are willing to respond to my invitation to enter this blog in the "comments" area.   Simply tell me what is bothering you the most and I will try to help you with your problem(s).

As I have stated elsewhere, if you contact a psychological therapist and/or a psychiatrist people will probably start to shy away from you if they find out.   

If you tell them that you were in touch with Stephen Adams who calls himself a Behavioral Consultant, no such stigma will attach to your decision.     Only you can make it happen.

WHAT IS ANXIETY!!!

Hello:

Anxiety is actually a double fear.  Fears concerning whatever achievement[s] that you are involved with in combination with the fear of time.  I suppose the simplest example would be a game such as hockey.  

As the game is ending and if you are losing, your fears for your ability to succeed are compounded by your fear of running out of time.

For the ladies in particular, a perfect example would be the woman who is working downtown and has one or more of her children in child care.  If she is late picking the children up she must pay a steep penalty.

However when she gets on the train or whatever to pick up her children, there are problematic situations where it is out of her control when she will arrive at the child care center.   Under these conditions she would be feeling stress and/or anxiety, --- take your pick.

Get in here and lets discuss these issues with each other.  I can help you deal with the stress and anxiety in your life but at the same time, you can make me more aware of the limitations of my help. 

The point is that we will both be better off if we communicate with each other about this subject.  So go ahead; I have made the first move by creating this blog, now it is your turn to make the second move.   By myself, nothing will get done but together we might just make life better for both of us.